Are you Trustworthy?


Guest Post By

Naomi D. Jones

I was watching Judge Mathis today where an ex girlfriend put her child’s fathers personal business on the internet. She wrote on Facebook that he was in arrears on his child support. Though it was true, the judge ruled that though it was not defamation of character, it was an invasion of privacy. She told people information that they didn’t need to know. This made me think of a situation that I have run across several times in my career as a nurse.

Have you run into the person who may be your peer who just can’t keep their mouth shut about everybody else’s business? Yes, that person who you know if you tell them anything it will be all over the office or unit. It becomes really difficult when that person is in leadership.
Your role as a leader
As a nursing leader, your staff needs to be able to come to you in confidence. We all have things happen in our lives that may be difficult for us to go through. These things may affect the staff member’s job, and they may need special allowances or assistance. These things should be held in confidence! Personal business should be just that, personal. Our desire should be to help, not gossip.

We have an obligation to those we lead. The first step is to understand that as leaders, we do not have the privilege to carry gossip. If you want your leadership to leave a positive legacy, you have to stop the gossip. To be trustworthy is an important leadership quality.

Here’s what we can do that’s real basic
Keep others personal information to yourself!
Protect confidences people share unless they are illegal or unethical.
Don’t participate in gossip about others.

We have to care about the people we have the privilege to lead. Create the mindset that confidence is key and nothing less will be tolerated. Physically remove yourself when the gossip mill starts. Elevate your soul and spirit to a higher level of service. Our level of responsibility to each other as nurses should not be less than what we would do for our patients. HIPPA is not just for patients!

Have you been the victim of gossip at work? How would you avoid putting anyone in that position?

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Naomi D. Jones is a Registered Nurse and Certified Life Coach.

She is a Nurse leadership trainer and Motivational Speaker.

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  1. Great post, Naomi. Being a nursing leader means nursing from within. As you said, standing in our confidence. Knowing when to speak up or speak out. Feeling comfortable and calm in our own skin. Thank you for shedding light on this topic as I am sure it helped as many nurses out there as it did me. Enjoy the day.

    • Thank you for your comment. Nursing from within is a great way of putting it. The privilege to lead demands that we treat others as we want to be treated. I’m glad you enjoyed the post.

  2. Eva M Francis RN-MSN-CCRN says:

    Great Article Naomi. I believe that’s a key attribute of a Leader. In fact, I would say that its Leadership 101. Staff can be very perceptive. They can see straight through us as leaders, & eventually you will lose their trust if you share private or confidential information.
    We owe that to the individuals that has been enthrusted under our leadership.
    Thanks for sharing.

    • Eva, Thank you for you comments. It is Leadership 101. How can people trust you to lead them when they can’t trust you to treat them with respect. Keeping a confidence is an act of respect.